FRUITS OF THE FAITHFUL HUSBAND
The term husband is
derived from the old English word hūsbōndi:
hūs = “house” and bōndi = “dweller”, which
etymologically means “householder”.
So literally, the husband
is the “house-band”. Just as the “money-band” holds money together to make it firm and
secure, and when it is loosed or torn the money gets scattered, the husband also
holds or bands a house together and if he is “loosed or torn”, the house
becomes unstable and insecure.
Have you ever wondered
why people enter a certain house and they ask, “Isn’t there a man in this house?”
Seven Fruits of the Faithful Man
The envy of many women is
the faithful man (husband). The Bible asks: “Most
men will proclaim each his own goodness, but who can find a faithful man? . . .
His children are blessed after him” (Proverbs 20:6-7).
Unlike the Virtuous Woman
who is very well described in the Bible, the Faithful Man is not.
So, walk with
me diligently into the vineyard of the faithful man to pluck some of his fruits.
1. Leadership
The man is endowed with greater natural strength and ability to lead. Leadership is influence, and so the faithful husband leads in setting a mission and vision for the family whiles providing direction and organizational inspiration and influence for the activities of the home.
Through leadership, the man serves as a role model and mentor through exemplary character and service; and provides assured security to the wife and children.
2. Love
A faithful husband shows
his love to his wife and family in words, actions, thoughts, and feelings.
He speaks with gentleness, encouragement,
acceptance, and grace
to his wife. He is kind and serves his wife unconditionally without
demanding anything in return. His thoughts are of peace, goodness, blessings and
hope; and he has warmth and affectionate feelings towards his family.
A husband must understand
that love for his wife is love for himself (Eph.5:28). And Adam said: “This is now bone of
my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was
taken out of Man”
(Gen.2:23).
3. Honour
To honour is to show high regard or great respect. A faithful husband honours his wife. “Husbands, likewise, dwell well with them with understanding, giving honour to the wife, as to the weaker vessel . . .” (1 Pet.3:7).
The faithful man values his wife as his most precious treasure and treats her with tenderness. He reminds her always of how important she is to him, reassures her of his love, and how he values and cherishes her.
4. Loyalty
To be loyal is to be committed
fully to your spouse above everyone and everything.
The Bible says, “. . .
Let your fountain be blessed, and
rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let
her breasts satisfy you at all times; and always be enraptured with her love .
. .” (Proverbs 5:15-20). “Live joyfully with the wife whom
you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun,
all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labour
which you perform under the sun” (Ecl.9:9).
Loyalty is vital to a healthy,
happy, safe and lasting marriage. When a man is loyal, his wife feels happy, safe
and secure in the marriage, even in his absence.
5. Praise and Appreciation
A faithful husband praises
his wife for who she
is in his life and calls her “Blessed”. He appreciates her and all
the things she does and provides, and he says, “Thank You!”. He doesn’t take her for granted but acknowledges
and compliments her for her role in his success.
A man might be tempted not
to bless and thank his wife for performing her duties, but doing that goes a
long way to tell her how much her efforts are appreciated and acknowledged.
6. Integrity
“The righteous man walks in his integrity . . .”
(Prov.20:7a). He lives a life that is not divided against itself. He gives his
word and keeps it. He does not say one thing and does another. He
lives a life that corresponds to what he says.
The faithful man firmly adheres to strong moral principles, and consciously
and consistently applies them to model his values and character daily. He
doesn’t keep secrets from his wife and family; he is open and honest in
everything.
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Well done