LOVE AND LOVE Reflections

Photo source: shutterstock.com “Men don’t cry” they say, but not with a heartbreak. Few men can deny crying when they experience(d) it. Whilst some resort to the shower to “wash” away their tears, others wear goggles to “cover” it up. That tells you the pain broken-heart can cause. Come to think of it, the heart has no “bone” to be broken, so why do we say it is “broken”? Whilst in a relationship, we invest ourselves, our time, energy, money and other resources into it; and our significant others “occupy” a greater part of our heart. When we lose the relationship, we lose all these investments, and our significant others “leave” our hearts creating a vacuum which cause intense emotional, and sometimes physical stress or pain. This is metaphorically referred to as “broken-heart”. For some, the signs might be there; but for others, it hits them like a bomb, Boom! It really hurts, and it can cause so much anger, resentment, hatred, emotional and psychological trauma

There are many people who think that the marriage ceremony is all in all for a marriage and so they take things lightly afterwards. But the alarming rate of break-up and divorce means that it takes a lot of work to have successful marriages, and so couples need to creatively build their marriage after they say “I Do”. The Friendship Factor A husband and wife need to develop friendship and be the best of friends. Friendship is the strongest relationship of all, and having your spouse as your best friend is one of the best things that can happen to your marriage. Couples who are best friends make happy marriages.   They are able to spend much time together creating emotional and physical intimacy, which is a factor for marital satisfaction. Effective Communication To have a successful marriage, you must have effective communication. It is impossible to have a healthy marriage without [effective] communication. Many marriages break down because couples quit communicating or

Whilst there are many partners who are about to enter into marriage and vow to each other, “Until death do us part”, many couples are contemplating of dissolving their marriages. This connotes that so much needs to be done before you say “I DO!” Many failed marriages can be traced back to inadequate preparation – intellectually, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It is said that proper prior planning prevents poor performance. When you plan well, you perform well. Marriage is such a serious business, and you need not enter into it lightly. Build Your Capacity to be a Fulfilled Single Many people are engulfed in search of a life partner than taking time to build themselves. Their pots are not kilned but they are seriously in search of water to fill it. Where will you safely store the water if the pot is not kilned? Why don't you focus now on kilning your pot so that when you fill it with water, it does not leak? Build your capacity to be a fulfilled single – ph

Photo source: shutterstock.com The decision of choosing a life partner is one of arguably three most important decisions you would make in life; the other two being your Religion and Vocation/Work.  As crucial as it might be, there are many misconceptions about it which normally "deceives" and "misguides" many people in their efforts to make this decision. Let’s explore five of these myths: Myth #1: There is one special person for me Some people believe that God created just one special person for them – their "soul mate". The men believe that their "rib" was used to create one particular woman, and the women also have the faith that they were made out of one particular man’s rib; and so they have to search for that person.   That sounds very comforting and romantic, but it’s just not true. It is illogical and "untheological"!  There are over seven billion people living across seven continents in the wo

Photo source: www.shutterstock.com The Red Flags are the indicators that signal that there might be trouble ahead in the relationship and so something needs to be questioned and or validated. They are the subtle signals that show either early or later in the relationship that your partner is not a relationship material and so you should reconsider whether or not to keep on with the relationship. They are good intuitive images that make you feel insecure in the relationship , and they shout Stop! Stop!! Stop!!! In the end, most people say “He told me at the beginning, but I just didn’t listen”; "She did it initially , but I ignored it"; “I saw it, but I neglected it”. Here are some Red Flags to look out for: 1. Lack of communication Communication is key and very vital in every good relationship. But when your partner or both of you find it difficult and unwilling to talk through issues, express how you feel, and not able to listen to each other’s point of vi