LOVE AND LOVE Reflections

Few years ago, I went through difficult and hard times that actually had a great toll on me and altered my life plans; and I kept asking myself, why me? Why at this time? But these trying times “defined” me to make me “redefine” my purpose in life (my vision and mission statements, and my guiding principles/values). These trying times made me discover so many hidden talents and potentials I had never known – and today, they are paying off immensely and impacting positively many lives. It was during these times I realized problems can be stepping stones rather than “stopping stones”, and I also got a better understanding of the saying “ Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit; every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success.”   Truly, there is a good purpose for anything that happens in our lives.   Failure is a trickster with a keen sense of irony and cunning. It takes great delight to rip off one's success when they are alm

Life is full of people who do us wrong, and do not want our good – in our family, workplace, community and even in the church. It is impossible to go through life without someone hurting, hating and wronging you at some point. Some people will even intentionally hurt and hate you. They will mistreat and wrong you for no good reason. As a result, it seems easy and the norm to love people who love us back; but we find it difficult if not impossible to love those who hate and hurt us, to bless those who curse us, and to do good to those who mistreat us and have expressed feelings of contempt for us. These are people who do not deserve to be loved. Love’s Greatest Challenge But in the books of Matthew 5:43-48 and Luke 6:27-36, Christ throws a challenge to us to love our enemies – by praying for them, doing good to them, blessing them, giving to them, and even lending to them without expecting to be repaid – and this is what I call “Love’s greatest challenge.” But could anyon

I have been approached on countless occasions with the question; “At what age or how old should one be to get married?” My answer always has been, “It is not the “aged” who gets married, but the mature and complete single!” And as you may guess, the follow up question has always been “What do you mean by a complete single? How do you become complete and fulfilled as a single when you are not married; when you don’t have a mate who really loves and cares for you”? Well, it is unfortunate that many hold this perception and so they enter into relationships unprepared and incomplete and are therefore met unexpectedly with the realities and uncertainties of marriage. It is the mature person who can accept the responsibilities of marriage. No one expects you to be a genius or extremely rich; but the dream of everyone for a spouse is someone who is responsible. Singles thus need to build their capacities to make themselves assets and not liabilities. You need to be a fulfilled or c