LOVE AND LOVE Reflections

Growing up in the early 2000s, there was a fun show hosted by Kwami Sefa Kayi on Ghana Television (GTV) which I enjoyed so much, titled: It Takes 2. It was a very entertaining and educative programme which sought to unravel and test the knowledge of partners, friends and comrades who thought they knew themselves really well – their likes and dislikes, interests and disinterests, goals and visions, passions, aspirations etc. It was a programme that to me, explains the old adage “It takes two to tango” , and the fact that relationship building involves work of two. In the song “Takes Two to Tango” by Louis Armstrong, one stanza of the song explains: You can sail a ship by yourself, Take a nap or a nip by yourself. You can get into debt on your own. There’s a lot of things that you can do alone But . . . Takes two to tango, . . .  Everything about life is about relationships, and it takes two to build a loving relationship. Relationship is team work, and it

“To err is human and to forgive is divine”; “No one is perfect, so don’t worry about it.” These are normally the words of those who easily forgive and do not hold grudges. Love does not hold grudges. It does not resent. Love is not a “record keeper” of wrongs – it does not keep a record list of wrong things people have said or done. Love forgives! Forgiveness is ceasing to feel angry or resentful towards; pardoning an offender or offence. It is one characteristic of long lasting, happy and pleasure-filled relationships. Some people have been badly offended by others, and so many years after, they still carry grudges towards those people that wronged them. They keep recalling all the offenses – this is because they are very good “record keepers” and the list is there to refer to. On the other hand, others who have been badly hurt talk instead about the good they have enjoyed, and the positive things that are happening in their lives now – these are the people with the loving