LOVE AND LOVE Reflections

Proverbs 31:10-31 sets for the beautiful description of a virtuous woman, wife and mother in an acrostic poem. The term “virtuous” used means strength of character, valour, efficiency, ability and firmness.   The woman described in Proverbs 31 shines as a bright beacon and an example. She is a lovely picture of womanhood; one who embodies the qualities which every woman should pursue in her personal life and appearance, in her family life, and in her daily duties. 10 Virtues of the Virtuous Wife 1.       She is Rare, Pricey and Beautiful A ruby is a gemstone, considered one of the four precious stones, together with the sapphire, the emerald, and the diamond. Among the natural gems, only moissonite and diamond are harder. Sure, “ruby” is a very valuable, precious and rare gem (Job 28:18 and Proverbs 20:15). You couldn’t go out along the streets and collect hundreds of them anytime you wanted to. Who can find a virtuous woman? She is worth m...

Photo source: shutterstock.com It’s a new year and many of us are setting (if not already) new year resolutions. One major aspect of our lives which requires yearly resolution has to do with our relationships.  Everyone dreams of a lovely relationship [marriage]; but it takes much efforts. Every relationship, especially marriage requires love [lovely partners] to make it harmonious, happy and fulfilling. To be a lovely spouse, thus, is a great goal you can set for yourself for the year. Remember, there are two people in a relationship [marriage], so both the man and woman must make effort to become a better partner. It’s worth resolving to be a faithful man [husband]. “Most men will proclaim each his own goodness; But who can find a faithful man? The righteous man walks in his integrity; His children are blessed after him” (Proverbs 20:6-7). As woman, to be a virtuous woman [wife] is a great thing you can desire. Proverbs 31:10-11 says, “Who can find a virtuou...

Photo source: shutterstock.com “Men don’t cry” they say, but not with a heartbreak. Few men can deny crying when they experience(d) it. Whilst some resort to the shower to “wash” away their tears, others wear goggles to “cover” it up. That tells you the pain broken-heart can cause. Come to think of it, the heart has no “bone” to be broken, so why do we say it is “broken”? Whilst in a relationship, we invest ourselves, our time, energy, money and other resources into it; and our significant others “occupy” a greater part of our heart. When we lose the relationship, we lose all these investments, and our significant others “leave” our hearts creating a vacuum which cause intense emotional, and sometimes physical stress or pain. This is metaphorically referred to as “broken-heart”. For some, the signs might be there; but for others, it hits them like a bomb, Boom! It really hurts, and it can cause so much anger, resentment, hatred, emotional and psychological trauma...

There are many people who think that the marriage ceremony is all in all for a marriage and so they take things lightly afterwards. But the alarming rate of break-up and divorce means that it takes a lot of work to have successful marriages, and so couples need to creatively build their marriage after they say “I Do”. The Friendship Factor A husband and wife need to develop friendship and be the best of friends. Friendship is the strongest relationship of all, and having your spouse as your best friend is one of the best things that can happen to your marriage. Couples who are best friends make happy marriages.   They are able to spend much time together creating emotional and physical intimacy, which is a factor for marital satisfaction. Effective Communication To have a successful marriage, you must have effective communication. It is impossible to have a healthy marriage without [effective] communication. Many marriages break down because couples quit communicating...

Whilst there are many partners who are about to enter into marriage and vow to each other, “Until death do us part”, many couples are contemplating of dissolving their marriages. This connotes that so much needs to be done before you say “I DO!” Many failed marriages can be traced back to inadequate preparation – intellectually, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. It is said that proper prior planning prevents poor performance. When you plan well, you perform well. Marriage is such a serious business, and you need not enter into it lightly. Build Your Capacity to be a Fulfilled Single Many people are engulfed in search of a life partner than taking time to build themselves. Their pots are not kilned but they are seriously in search of water to fill it. Where will you safely store the water if the pot is not kilned? Why don't you focus now on kilning your pot so that when you fill it with water, it does not leak? Build your capacity to be a fulfilled single – ph...