LOVE IS POSITIVE: IT FORBEARS

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Love though threatened, keeps pursuing; though challenged, keeps moving; though mistreated, remains gentle.

Many a time and oft we show love, but our love goes unnoticed, unappreciated and unreciprocated, and it leaves us thinking, “Should we continue to show love?” But if it is really love, it doesn’t waver when it is not received the way we wished it to be. 
If love can be told to quit loving and it does, then it is not really love. Love forbears!

Love bears all things . . . 1Cor.13:7. It means tolerating, putting up graciously and patiently with someone’s weakness when it encounters the area of your strength. This is the nature of love which makes it possible to withstand all the wrongs of others, behave well towards the unseemingly behaviour of others, show kindness continuously to the ungrateful person, think about the best interest of enemies, and forgive the wrongs of people and not count it against them.
Someone rightly said, "Relationships without forbearance usually don’t last long; if they do, happiness is never paramount."    
                                       
The word “bear” is the Greek word stego, translated cover, protect, shield, guard or conceal. Love covers, as a roof covers a house, and protects, as a roof protects, shields, and guards the inhabitants of a house from exposure to the influences of bad weather – storms, rain, cold, wind, and blistering hot temperatures. 
Rather than expose you and your flaws to the view of others, love will conceal, cover, and protect you. Like paint, love covers a multitude of weaknesses! 
Love wards off insults and injuries; love won’t mention the unlovely traits in its significant others; love won’t remember the unkind deed; without retaliation, love forbears malice and slander. 

 Love's forbearance with the flaws and weaknesses of others, however, is not a sanction to them through its supineness. It forbears through corrections and just punishments.

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Sammy Adjei is a Love & Relationship Expert with a compelling passion to help individuals, couples and families build lovely relationships. Sammy is licensed by the Ghana Psychology Council as a Counselor [Lay Practitioner]. He is a member of the Ghana Psychological Association, and the Ghana Academy of Christian Counselors. Contact: +233 (0) 207295852

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