TAKE AWAY THE FACE MASK; CULTIVATE TRANSPARENCY IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

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Many of us have face masks put on in our relationships. We are not “known” by the people who should know us. For us, nobody knows what really goes on within us. Nobody knows what we are thinking. We can never be “predicted”. We portray a different person than we really are. Because we think that is the best way to safeguard ourselves – our identity – in the relationship.
However, those who have lovely and lasting relationships have one characteristic in common – and that is openness. They have a certain transparency, allowing people to see what is in their heart. They are open, “clear” and unclouded. They are honest about their feelings, about what they like and do not like. They have nothing to hide from their significant others,  knowing that if they are open, there will be people who cannot keep from loving them.

Intimacy without transparency?
There has been no loving relationship without intimacy; and there can be no real intimacy without transparency. Without transparency, there will be mistrust and insecurity.
Someone defined Intimacy as “In-To-Me-See”. Intimacy is about your willingness to grant your partner total access to your inner, hidden world of your secrets, motives and beliefs. It is developed through each person’s ability to be open about their feelings, needs and wants, fears, insecurities, weaknesses, flaws, and mistakes without the masks.
It's important to stay honest and transparent throughout the relationship, letting your partner know how you feel and think, and whether anything is making you feel uncomfortable or insecure.

Remove the mask!
Refusing to open up and share can have irreparable effects on your relationship. Habitual pretense and withdrawal only leads to a disintegration of your personality, making you lose your credibility before people; but on the other hand, honesty literally can be a great relief from mental and certain types of physical illness, and serve as a hinge of the relationship. 

You never genuinely know yourself except as an outcome of disclosing yourself to others. "Make thyself known and thou shall then know thyself." 
Build more windows and fewer walls; you will definitely be assured of more friends, and you will enjoy lovely relationships. 

REFERENCE
  1. The Friendship Factor by Alan Loy McGinnis

Sammy Adjei is a Love & Relationship Expert with a compelling passion to help individuals, couples and families build lovely relationships. Sammy is licensed by the Ghana Psychology Council as a Counselor [Lay Practitioner]. He is a member of the Ghana Psychological Association, and the Ghana Academy of Christian Counselors. Contact: +233 (0) 207295852

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