LOVE AND LOVE Reflections

Marriage is not one-way. It is a bond between two loving individuals who are from different backgrounds with differences in their likes, dislikes, convictions, passions, values, and principles. This means they all cannot like one thing, do one thing or agree on everything. So, what should couples do?  Many argue that marriage is an eternal compromise – partners have to meet each other half-way on a common ground. But should that always be the case?  Others also argue that one key factor to a happy marriage is for partners to learn not to compromise at all. Does that mean each partner takes an entrenched position? Marriage is a compromise Marriage is a compromise, and it is a necessary part of any happy and successful marriage. You cannot always want to have your way and expect to enjoy your marriage. It will not work! Compromising will mean not being stereotyped but coming to terms with what is at stake and taking into consideration the other partner’s views, th...

Love is a primary human emotional need. It is the most important word in the world, without which almost everything becomes impossible. Love is the energy of life; it is what motivates people to get going each day, giving them purpose and meaning in life. Loving and being loved is what makes life worth living; it is the greatest happiness of existence. Someone said, “The roots of the deepest love die in the heart if not tenderly cherished.” True! And they are well cherished with the little gestures of love. The gestures of love occur in friendships, families and romantic relationships. They are the little things done just to say “I love you.” Love is something you do; the little things, and they count a lot. They have ripple effects which can spread even beyond the original point of contact intended. Yes! The experts at love know this and they never get tired looking for the gestures of love, showing them in small expressions of affection. Acts of services: Someone said...

We all fall victims of going to one of two extremes: either beauty is magnified above its God given role as a gift to the creature or it is vilified as being unspiritual or worldly. Men, especially delight in beauty; it pleases them, and almost every man has beauty as part of the qualities he looks out for in a wife. However, listing beauty as a quality you look out for in a life partner is met with lengthy advice; the common statement being “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fading . . .” The Akans will tell you, “yennfa ahoofe nko aware” which literally means, we don’t base on beauty to marry. We are created beautiful  As much as we are cautioned not to place much emphasis on outer beauty, we cannot also neglect the fact that we are created beautiful by God, beautiful in all areas; our height, weight, stature, speech, shape etc. and this beauty is to be adored and appreciated. From the Bible, Adam no doubt saw Eve to be a very beautiful woman; Sarah’s beauty was...

GOD IS THE AUTHOR OF DIVERSITY Truly, God is the author of diversity. The Bible says, “. . . male and female He created them” (Gen 1:27). God had a purpose for not creating us the same. In His plan, our differences were never intended to divide us, but to unite us. God designed our differences to be complementary, not to cause conflicts. He created our differences to be assets not liabilities. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, for she was taken out of Man.” Therefore, shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall become one flesh (Gen.2:23-24). When each spouse recognizes and affirms the other’s uniqueness, the differences weld the couple together into an unbeatable team. PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT People are different, and knowing this is essential for building positive and lovely relationships. No two snow-flakes are the same; no two fingerprints are identical, so far as foren...