LOVE AND LOVE Reflections

Why are we so reluctant to declare openly that we care and love someone? Why do we restrain ourselves from letting people know we miss them, we yearn and we long for them? Psychologists say there are several reasons why we restrain ourselves from openly declaring our affection. Probably for fear of seeming sentimental and being embarrassed. Most of us hold back our expressions of warmth and thus miss out on promising rich and profound relationships. But those who are loved widely are those who usually throw caution to the winds and declare their love freely. How could you resist it when your partner tells you, “I love you like I love my “banku” with okro stew”; and you know they truly love this meal? Apparently, everyone loves a lover. Someone said, “If you wish to be loved, love!” We naturally tend to fall in love with those who love us. The great “pull” to love comes precisely from his/her loving you. It is sad though, when two people come together and like eac...

Love defined (?)   Love is probably the most debated, discussed and analyzed word in the world, but still remains the least understood word in the world. It is everywhere – in our songs, in our books, on our television screens, on the radios and in the movies. It is always on our tongues, in our thoughts and always a part of our conversations. Yet, for all these debates and discussions and analysis, many of us don't know and understand the true nature love. Everyone tries to define love in his or her own way, but the definitions are always incomplete.  For over eight years now that I have deliberately and diligently studied about love, I have been asked countless times to define love. Well, I have always defined love as “your thoughts, feelings, sayings and actions that are in the best interest of others”; but always after this definition, I still see it as incomplete. As hard as one will try to define love, something is always missing in the definition. ...